Sibling (Dys)functions

We often think sibling rivalry is about personality clashes or family tension—but beneath it lies something deeper. As C.S. Lewis once wrote, “Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more than the next person.” In Genesis 27, Jacob and Esau are set against each other in a battle not just for a blessing, but for superiority. Shaped by the favoritism of Isaac and Rebekah, their relationship becomes defined by comparison—who is greater, who is chosen, who comes out on top. But this struggle isn’t limited to ancient families. We measure ourselves against siblings, friends, and peers—quietly competing for status, recognition, or worth. Yet comparison can quickly turn into resentment, and resentment into hatred. What would it look like to confront the pride that drives comparison, and instead learn to love others not as rivals, but as neighbors?